“The only problem that comes with being privileged is occasionally shutting the fuck up, listening to someone else, and being like “oh, that does suck. How can I help?”—Jamie Kilstein (via miss-melancholy-usa)
next time someone tells you Muslim countries oppress women, let them know Pakistan, Bangladesh, Indonesia, Turkey, Kosovo, Kyrgyzstan, and Senegal have all had female Presidents or Prime Ministers and 1/3rd of Egypt’s parliament is female but the US has yet to even have a female vice president and can’t say “vagina” when discussing female reproductive rights
So much of our culture caters to giving men what they want. A high school student invites model Kate Upton to attend his prom, and he’s congratulated for his audacity. A male fan at a Beyoncé concert reaches up to the stage to slap her ass because her ass is there, her ass is magnificent, and he wants to feel it. The science fiction fandom community is once again having a heated discussion, across the Internet, about the ongoing problem of sexual harassment at conventions — countless women are telling all manner of stories about how, without their consent, they are groped, ogled, lured into hotel rooms under false pretenses, physically lifted off the ground, and more.
But men want what they want. We should all lighten up.
It’s hard not to feel humorless as a woman and a feminist, to recognize misogyny in so many forms, some great and some small, and know you’re not imagining things. It’s hard to be told to lighten up because if you lighten up any more, you’re going to float the fuck away. The problem is not that one of these things is happening, it’s that they are all happening, concurrently and constantly.
These are just songs. They are just jokes. They are just movies. It’s just a hug. They’re just breasts. Smile, you’re beautiful. Can’t a man pay you a compliment? In truth, this is all a symptom of a much more virulent cultural sickness — one where women exist to satisfy the whims of men, one where a woman’s worth is consistently diminished or entirely ignored.
Seriously tho. Why *should* she be asked to smile?
Asking a woman to smile is to make her more approachable. It’s to make you feel more comfortable - not her. I, personally, have zero fucks to give about being approachable to strange men on the street. Women are not here to entertain and please random folks.
Asking me to smile is akin to asking me to jump. Um. For what?
There’s this weird responsibility placed on women to be happy and lady-like and pleasant all of the time. It rids us of being able to express our own range of human emotions.
No one is asking for men and women to not interact with each other. That’s silly. This project is asking for women to be interacted with as if they have agency over their own bodies.
Creator of the Stop Telling Women To Smile project
“We have a double standard, which is to say, a man can show how much he cares by being violent — see, he’s jealous, he cares — a woman shows how much she cares by how much she’s willing to be hurt; by how much she will take; how much she will endure.”—Andrea Dworkin (via ellielamothe)
- petrol girls ep. 3 tracks. Complete with banging artwork.
- record all those solo tunes. Tangle of limbs. The final exorcism!! Haaa
- begin a-muse-zine. At least accumulate material. Get writing over Xmas when there will be time, dog and fire.
- figure out & cost exact process for fabricating Give Us A Smile Love in metal.
- learn about metal work..
- house of astbury printing: bandanas, snoods, hoodies, tshirts
- should probably learn some German, with the whole moving to hamburg in the spring thing…
- catch up on outrageous back log of birthday cards/ presents/ thank you letters for things you useless ungrateful nob cheese
- do some paper screen printing. Just do some art that makes some god damn cash so you’re no longer doomed to staring at water and shouting at kids for relentless hours on end.
Time is ruuuuuuning out my time is ruuuuuunning out how did it come to this ooooo- oooooeeeeeyeahyeajyeahyrahyeah ooooooooooyeahyeaaa-aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh
“What is interesting, is that the Frida Kahlo venerated by American feminists is a very different Frida Kahlo to the one people learn about in Mexico, in the Chicano community. In her country, she is recognized as an important artist and a key figure in revolutionary politics of early 20th century Mexico. Her communist affiliations are made very clear. Her relationship with Trotsky is underscored. All her political activities with Diego Rivera are constantly emphasized. The connection between her art and her politics is always made. When Chicana artists became interested in Frida Kahlo in the ‘70s and started organizing homages, they made the connection between her artistic project and theirs because they too were searching for an aesthetic compliment to a political view that was radical and emancipatory. But when the Euro-American feminists latch onto Frida Kahlo in the early ‘80s and when the American mainstream caught on to her, she was transformed into a figure of suffering. I am very critical of that form of appropriation.”—
By Susuana Antubam Originally posted on Susuana’s Adventures in ULU Land So, earlier on facebook I posted a status saying: “People need to take a big (intersectional) feminist think before they pos…
If I’m going to have to listen to folks I know talk about things like Miley Cyrus and Lilly Allen and whatever other pop stars I’m not even a fan of in the first place, it had better include how they objectify and ostensibly exploit women of color. There are more critical pieces where this one came from.
Susuana is the women’s officer at University of London Union. I’ve been working closely with her on Hollaback related stuff the past couple of weeks. Honestly she’s like wonder woman, involved in so many different campaigns and pretty much running the place at ULU. She deserves some kind of giant medal for all the stuff she does.
“Look, I get it. Sometimes you have to play Friendly Feminist to achieve your goal. Sometimes you don’t have the luxury of pissing people off and waiting for them to come around to your position; we make compromises to survive. But you know what? Other times the most powerful way to get what you want is to make some trouble. Maybe the politician whose vote you need won’t listen unless you’re loud, or your community won’t actually stop to think about your position until you make people uncomfortable. Maybe you need to make literal noise (by the old definition of “literal”) until midnight to stall an abortion bill.”—In defense of abrasiveness (via brutereason)
What I mean when I say "patriarchy":
A set of socially maintained systems, values, and ideologies which perpetuate arbitrary and outdated ideas about gender and human sexuality, encompassing social phenomena like homophobia, transphobia, and sexism.
What people THINK I mean when I say "patriarchy":
A secret brotherhood that meets together once a month to discuss how best to oppress women, and are in control of all of the world's governments.